Before the Verdict

A postulated reflection: If our histories shape what we see, what might change when we question our first judgment?
We meet one world through different eyes,
And each declares the picture clear;
But what we call another’s fault
May wear the face of our own fear.
Perhaps the past still frames the room,
And tells us what deserves our sight;
One seeks the comfort of straight lines,
One seeks a hand against the night.
We gather proof that takes our side,
And leave unwelcome facts outside;
Confirmation bias names the habit—
A tilted scale we call our guide.
Yet different views are not all true,
Nor does a wound make falsehood right;
The world resists what we believe—
Our claims must bear its testing light.
When someone speaks against our view,
The pulse may leap before we know;
Is this a threat before our eyes,
Or yesterday refusing to go?
Before the verdict leaves the tongue,
Could we allow one breath of space?
Not choke the feeling into silence,
But keep its heat from ruling the case.
What fact would make us change our minds?
What have we brushed aside as wrong?
Could reason test the claims we love,
Not merely make their voices strong?
To hear another is not to yield,
Nor must we bless the harm they do;
We can refuse a cruel demand
And ask what brought that hurt to view.
Must every difference draw our blood?
Can we meet doubt without the flame?
If anger keeps deciding for us,
How much of us will it reshape and name?

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DCG

Transcript
Took me 42 years to understand what I’m about to explain to you in under a minute. And once you understand this, you’ll stop being so confused about why people do what they do.
There’s no one single right reality where you are right and everyone else is wrong. We assume that the way we see things is the way things are, right? Our values feel obvious, our priorities feel logical, our conclusions feel correct. So when someone disagrees with us, it feels wrong. And this is where the frustration starts.
But here’s what most people never consider. Other people are not just choosing different actions, they are seeing a completely different reality because everybody is experiencing life through their own lens, and it’s shaped by their upbringing, by their experiences, by what they’ve been rewarded for, what they’ve been hurt by—which means something subtle is happening.
Two people can look at the same situation and see two completely different things. One person walks into a messy room and feels stressed. Another person walks into the same room and doesn’t even notice it. But they do notice how people are feeling. One values order, the other values connection. Neither is wrong, but they both feel like the other is.
And Anaïs Nin said it simply: “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
Our view of the world happens through patterns the brain has learned over time. And once your brain builds a certain view of the world, it starts reinforcing it, looking for evidence that confirms it and ignoring what doesn’t.
So this leads to a very different way of thinking. What if the reason people frustrate you isn’t because they’re wrong, but because they’re seeing something that you’re not?
One of the strangest truths about life is this: we are not all reacting to the same world. We’re each reacting to the version of the world our mind has learned to see.
And the moment that you realize that is the moment you stop trying to correct people who are wrong and you start understanding them.[Attachment]
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Shannon Shallcross describes herself as a speaker, writer, founder, and two-time TEDx speaker. Her platform, The Gratitude Mind, explores gratitude and how perception shapes people’s experience of life