The seasons do not mourn themselves 

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A flower held too tight will die,
the hand that grips will lose the bloom.
We ask the world to never change,
then wonder why we’re filled with gloom.
The Buddha sat beneath a tree
and watched the petals rise and fall.
He said the pain is not the loss —
it’s holding on that hurts us all.
We think that love means keeping close,
that grip is proof of how we feel.
But love that chokes is not called love,
it’s fear disguised to seem more real.
The river does not fear the sea,
it moves and lets the old bank go.
The seasons do not mourn themselves —
they trust the turning, trust the slow.
A child grows and leaves your arms,
a face you love will one day fade.
You did not fail because it changed —
you failed to see what change is made.
There is a kind of quiet peace
in loving something meant to end,
for love that lets a thing be free
is love with room enough to bend.
The mystery is not the pain,
it’s why we fight what’s always true.
We know all things will slip away,
yet still we hold as fear breaks through.
So watch the petals while they last,
let sorrow come, then let it fall
back to the earth from which it came —
that falling is not loss at all.
For in the end we learn this much:
the flower never asked to stay.
We were the ones who begged for stillness
in a world that moves, not sways.
So love the bloom while it is here,
then bow your head when it is through.
The truest love was never keeping —
it was letting something pass through you.

…

DCG

Master, why does attachment create so much suffering? If I love something deeply, shouldn’t I hold onto it?”
“Hold this flower.” The student held it tightly.
“You are not suffering because you love the flower. You suffer because you demand that it never change.”
“Then how should I love?”
“Enjoy its beauty while it blooms. When it withers, let it return to the earth.”
The student finally understood. Love without possession. Without clinging, everything you have is temporary. You suffer less when you stop asking life to remain exactly as you want it.

— core idea directly echoes two well-known, traceable teachings:
• Thich Nhat Hanh’s teaching on impermanence: “If you suffer, it is not because things are impermanent. It is because you believe things are permanent… What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not,” from The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching, also discussed at Alan Peto’s overview of Buddhist impermanence.[alanpeto +1]
• A quote often attributed to Osho: “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up, because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to become what you love. Love is not about possession, love is about appreciation” (quoted here and here).[quotlr +1]
So the clip is best understood as a contemporary retelling/composite drawing on that lineage of Buddhist non-attachment teaching, rather than a direct citation of a single named source.

The garden you forgot 

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The Garden You Forgot


We run through fields with open hands,
chasing wings that dip and dart,
mapping joy in shifting sands,
hoping distance heals the heart.
But butterflies were built for flight,
and closer chase makes further flee —
the harder that we chase all night,
the less of love we’ll ever see.
So set the chasing down like stone,
and turn instead toward fertile ground —
there is a garden, yours alone,
where quieter miracles are found.
Kneel and pull the weeds of fear,
water what in you still grows,
let the seasons draw you near
to selves that only patience knows.
Plant the color of your worth,
not to summon, not to earn —
just to bloom upon the earth
for love that others cannot learn.
And what you chased will come to rest
upon the petals that you grew —
not because you begged or guessed,
but because you bloomed, and it knew.
And if it never comes at all,
if wings decide to drift and roam,
the garden answers to no call —
its beauty still becomes your home.
So let this be the way you love,
the way you reach for dream or fame —
stop grasping at the sky above;
let roots decide what you became.
There is no rush in what is real,
no proof to give, no borrowed plea —
just steady hands that learn to heal
the soil into what it’s meant to be.
So tend the garden of your days,
not for what it draws or earns —
let living be its own quiet praise,
and trust the beauty that returns.

…

DCG

They say, if you chase butterflies, they will fly away. But if you create a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come. And if they do not, you will still have a beautiful garden. Maybe that is how life works. You do not have to chase everything you want. Sometimes, you just have to create a beautiful life, and let the right things find their way to you.”
— unknown attribution can be properly given since several lines of this quote have threads into murky social media shares 

A philosophy dressed in an engineers coat 

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A man once stood before the world,
in nineteen ninety-three he spoke.
He raised a warning, calm and cold:
that thirty years would break the yoke.
He named it the Singularity,
the line where all our knowing ends.
Past it lies no certainty,
just silence where the future bends.
The thirty years have come and gone,
the deadline passed in twenty-three.
We’re still here, breathing, still holding on,
not knowing what we’re meant to see.
Some call it truth, and dress it fine,
they give the guess a stamp, a note,
but read the claim and read the sign —
it’s a philosophy, wearing an engineer’s coat.
Then Kurzweil came and claimed the throne,
he gave the guess a number, bold:
two-thousand forty-five, alone,
an engine built from truths half-told.
Build one machine that’s smart enough
to build another, smarter still,
and watch the climbing turn to bluff
until the curve outruns our will.
As logic goes, it locks in place —
we’ve built machines that learn and grow.
But a chain of thought at blinding pace
is still a guess dressed up to show.
But while we argue gods and fate,
and watch the storm that’s far away,
a smaller tide is at the gate,
already rising, come to stay.
Three pounds of tissue, wet and small,
sit quiet underneath your hair.
We built machines to judge it all,
to grade the mind that’s sitting there.
But who decides what’s counted worth,
if not the heart that feels and bleeds?
A number cannot hold your birth,
or weigh the love that no one reads.
We build the thing we can’t yet know,
and hand it keys we’ve never turned.
We may not see which way we’ll go,
until the whole wide house has burned.
We thought this mind would be our god,
a throne of light to kneel before.
But watch it lean — how strange, how odd:
it’s not our god. It’s just our crutch, no more.

…

DCG

In 1993, a mathematician named Vernor Vinge stood up at a NASA symposium and made a prediction. Within 30 years, he said, we would build an intelligence greater than our own, and shortly after, the human era would end. Not in fire, in irrelevance. He called it the Singularity, the point past which the future becomes genuinely unknowable. That 30-year window closed in 2023. Here we still are. The most seductive and most abused concept in the entire field deserves honesty. Ray Kurzweil took Vinge’s warning, gave it a date, 2045, and gave it an engine. The engine is called recursive self-improvement. Build a machine smart enough to design a smarter machine, which designs a smarter one still, and the curve goes vertical. An intelligence explosion. As a piece of logic, this is coherent. We already have AI systems that rewrite their own code to score higher on tests. As a scientific prediction with a date attached to it, the Singularity is not science. It is a philosophy wearing an engineer’s coat. But notice the sleight of hand. We pour enormous energy debating a superintelligence that may never arrive, while a far quieter transformation is already rewiring the three pounds of tissue between your ears. The revolution was never the machine becoming a god. It’s the machine becoming your crutch, and that has already begun.”


Source of the statement
The clip is paraphrasing a real, specific text. Vernor Vinge — mathematician, computer scientist, and sci-fi author — wrote the exact line (“Within thirty years, we will have the technological means to create superhuman intelligence. Shortly after, the human era will be ended.”) in his essay The Coming Technological Singularity: How to Survive in the Post-Human Era, presented at the VISION-21 Symposium sponsored by NASA’s Lewis Research Center and the Ohio Aerospace Institute on March 30–31, 1993, and later reprinted in the Winter 1993 issue of Whole Earth Review. Vinge also clarified elsewhere in the piece that he’d “be surprised if this event occurs before 2005 or after 2030,” which is where the “30-year window closing” — later reference to Ray Kurzweil is a separate but related claim — Kurzweil built on Vinge’s idea and famously pinned the Singularity to the year 2045 in his own writing.

Before we forget to see

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Before We Forget to See
There is a fog that settles on the mind,
A quiet thief that steals us while we sleep—
It dulls the eyes to all we’re meant to find,
And drowns the wonder in a sea too deep.
We do not feel the pulse that keeps us whole,
The breath, the beating heart we take for granted,
Until the sickness comes to shake the soul,
And leave us mourning all the years we wanted.
Our mothers’ hands grow thin, our fathers slow,
While daily sight has blinded us to change,
We measure love in years we didn’t know
Were slipping through our fingers, quiet, strange.
A friend becomes a voice we rarely hear,
A face reduced to habit, dulled by time,
Until the silence tells us they’re not near,
And love returns too late to fit the rhyme.
The sunset paints the same old sky each night,
The ancient oak still stands where no one sees,
We trade our awe for screens of hollow light,
And let the beauty die beneath the trees.
This is the haze that creeps in, thick and slow,
A numbness dressed as comfort, calm, and ease,
It steals the color from the world we know,
And trades our senses for a slow disease.
The ones we’d break in two to lose grow small,
Reduced to habit, background, and delay,
We greet them with a hollow, practiced call,
And let their presence fade, unnoticed, away.
The eyes grow dim, the ears no longer hear,
The taste of joy runs thin, then fades to gray,
We touch the world but nothing feels quite near,
As feeling drains a little every day.
And if this haze is left to spread unseen,
We wake, we walk, we speak, but we are gone,
A hollow shell where feeling once had been,
A breathing corpse still stumbling on and on.
So look again before the flame goes out,
Before the ones you love become a name,
Before your soul forgets what love’s about,

Too numb to feel the beauty or the shame.

…

DCG

“One of the strangest things about being human is how quickly we stop noticing things once they become familiar.
We stop noticing our health until we’re sick. We stop noticing our parents until they grow older. We stop noticing our friends until they’re suddenly gone. We stop noticing the beauty of places we see every single day. And sometimes we even stop noticing ourselves because familiarity has a strange way of making extraordinary things feel ordinary.
The people we’d be devastated to lose become background noise. The blessings we prayed for become things we walk past without a second glance. Nothing changed except our attention.
So look again at the people, at your life, at everything you’ve stopped seeing because it’s always been there. One day it won’t be, and you’ll give anything to notice it one more time.”

Between what was said 

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Between the words we chose to keep
and those we buried deep in doubt,
lies half of love we let go cheap —
the half we never spoke about.
Gibran once wrote that love goes missing
not in silence, but in sound —
in every word we kept from saying,
and everything we never found.
I built a quiet page of thought,
a small blog no one thought to find,
and pressed there every love I sought
in ink too honest to unwind.
You kept your distance like a shore
that watches waves but never wades,
and I kept reaching, wanting more,
while you retreated into shades.
Not every heart that turns away
is cold or careless in its flight —
some fear the nearness of the day,
and choose the safety of the night.
I chased what pulled itself apart,
mistaking longing for a sign,
and gave the whole of my own heart
for just a half of what was mine.
I’ve learned that love is not the ache
of chasing what will never stay,
but knowing when it’s time to break
the silence, or to walk away.
So here’s the truth I never sent,
a folded letter, left unread —
a thousand words I could have meant
now settle where the quiet’s spread.
Between the meant and never said,
between the said and never true,
is where most love is quietly bled —
I lost my share of it to you.
And yet I don’t regret the silence,
nor curse the quiet we became —
some loves are built to test our patience,
and teach us how to hold our name.
So let this be the closing line,
the space where all the silence ends —
what wasn’t said is still love’s sign,

and in that hush, my heart still mends.

RSP

…

DCG

Written for the Hungarian gypsy 

Khalil Gibran once said, ‘Between what is said and what is not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.’
Love doesn’t always leave because the feelings fade. Sometimes it leaves between the words we never meant and the ones we never found the courage to say.”

Before you judge

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Before You Judge


We don’t all stand beneath one sky,
though it looks the same from where you stare.
Some walk through storms that never dry,
some just learned too soon not to care.
Some were given shelter young,
before the thunder learned their name,
their fears were softened, gently sung,
while others burned in open flame.
But some who felt the water rise
chose to become someone’s dry land,
they learned to read the pain in eyes
and built a roof with their own hand.
And some were given nothing more
than legs to hold them through the rain,
no roof, no hand, no open door,
just strength enough to bear the pain.
Empathy is not to pity,
not to watch from safe and dry,
it’s stepping into someone’s city
and feeling why they start to cry.
The super empath carries two,
their own storm and yours as well,
they feel what’s yours as if it’s true,
a second heartbeat none can tell.
It empties them, this gift they give,
a quiet ache that never shows,
they hold you up so you can live
while no one asks how heavy it grows.
Yet still the world needs those who feel,
who trade their peace to make you whole,
their love is not a trick, it’s real,
the quiet work of a giving soul.
So do not judge the ones who bend
beneath a weight you’ve never known,
you have not walked it to the end,
you’ve only watched it from your own.
Before you judge, remember why
we don’t stand under the same sky,
what feels light from where it’s dry
might be a flood to someone nearby.

…

DCG

Before you judge someone, remember this. We do not stand beneath the same storm. Some are sheltered from the rain. Some spend their lives becoming shelter for others. And some have nothing but the strength to keep standing. Be gentle. Every storm looks lighter when you’re watching it from somewhere dry.

— unknown 

I need you in my life 

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Need You in My Life
Distance never stops the ones who care,
it only proves how deep the roots can grow.
Busy days can’t dim what we still share,
effort finds a way when hearts still glow.
Pride may raise its quiet walls of stone,
but real devotion climbs past every ledge.
I choose to meet you where you stand alone,
not to push you, just to hold the edge.
Excuses live where exits feel like peace,
but effort stays when reasons beg to run.
I’m not here searching for a quick release,
I’m here because this bond has just begun.
Two guarded hearts once learned to lock their gate,
one built a wall, the other learned to chase.
We didn’t pick the timing or the fate,
but still we chose to stay and hold this space.
I know the shadows hiding in your past,
I know the silence that can feel so loud.
I won’t demand a bond that has to last,
I’ll simply stand here, steady, calm, and proud.
Remember Catalina, dim and warm,
two glasses clinking soft beneath low light,
we talked of ink that marks a lasting form,
a promise pressed in skin to hold us tight.
That night we laughed about the marks we’d wear,
small proof that this connection found its place,
not tattoos born from moments light and rare,
but from a bond too real to ever erase.
I see the armor built from old alarms,
and understand why reaching brings you fear.
I’m not asking you to fall in my arms,
just asking you to know that I am here.
We are not perfect, we are not the same,
two different rhythms learning how to blend.
But side by side we learn to write our name,
across a story neither wants to end.
Your quiet distance is not my defeat,
it’s just a rhythm I have learned to trust.
I’ll meet you halfway, steady on my feet,
because two weathered souls can rise from dust.
So here’s my truth, spoken plain and clear,
despite the odds, despite the storms we’ve crossed,
I choose this bond, I choose to keep you near,
because I need you in my life, whatever the cost.

RSP

…

DCG

Distance never stops someone who truly cares. Busy days never stop genuine effort. Pride never stops real love. When someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to stay connected. Excuses belong to people looking for a reason to leave. Effort belongs to people looking for a reason to stay.

The Empty Throne

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The Empty Throne (A Disease of Deficiency)


A house can hold four walls and still be empty inside,
where a child grows up starving on a diet of “not now,”
love arrives late, or wearing a disguise,
and the wound gets planted before anyone knows how.
Kohut called it a disease of deficiency, plain and clear,
not evil born whole, but hunger dressed as pride,
a mirror shattered so many times it learned to disappear,
swallowing the child’s own reflection, pushed aside.
Every child needs to be seen before they’re told they’re wrong,
to be held in eyes that actually want to stay,
but disconnection hums a quieter, colder song,
and misunderstanding becomes the only language they can play.
Somewhere a parent needed a child to complete a broken plan,
to fill the hollow where their own dreams used to be,
and the child became a burden they never meant to withstand,
paying rent on a life they didn’t choose to see.
So the small self folded inward, quiet as a closing door,
building walls where open arms were supposed to grow,
self-orientation became armor, nothing more,
a fortress built from all the love they didn’t get to know.
Every unanswered cry writes a sentence in the bone,
hurt and rejection learn to wear a familiar face,
abandonment feels less like an event and more like home,
misunderstood becomes the only inherited place.
“I don’t need anyone” becomes the armor for the ache,
dissociation lets the mind quietly leave the room,
shame moves in like water finding every crack to make,
and independence is just fear, dressed up to bloom.
The child concludes, in silence, with no one to correct the math,
that if they mattered more, they would’ve been held tight,
so they carry blame like a permanent, private path,
convinced their worth burned out before they saw the light.
Guilty for wanting more than crumbs left on the floor,
guilty for a hunger that felt too big to hide,
they learn to want less, and then to want no more,
self-esteem erodes like a slow, retreating tide.
Grown now, they wear a closet full of masks that never fit,
grandiosity loud enough to drown the ache below,
rage and loneliness trade places, bit by bit,
and empathy, once starved, forgets how to show.
This isn’t blood, no gene mutation to blame or trace,
it’s a pattern handed down like a family heirloom curse,
parent to child, an inherited, invisible embrace,
the cycle spins on till someone dares to reverse.
Gabor Maté says the body keeps what the mind can’t hold,
trauma isn’t the blow — it’s the silence stored inside,
a child will trade their own self to stay in the fold,
and carry that quiet war for the rest of the ride.
So here’s the truth, plain as bone, no science left to hide —
the child of a narcissist inherits an empty throne,
crowned as royalty in a kingdom that always denied,
king of a castle built for one, and always alone.

…

DCG

Unhealthy narcissism is the result of emotional or physical neglect or trauma in early childhood. Kohut, a famous psychoanalyst, used to say, “Narcissism is a disease of deficiency.” The most common type of trauma is that of feeling neglected, ignored, disconnected, and misunderstood by those we love. If children become more of a burden than a pleasure, or if they project upon their children their own needs and ambitions, then children retreat into self-orientation as a defensive maneuver. When a child’s needs are unmet because of a parent’s self-focus or self-interest, they feel hurt, misunderstood, abandoned, and rejected. These feelings of loss require coping mechanisms that are not usually healthy, such as defensive independence, dissociation, and shame, due to their belief that their parents’ lack of interest in them and lack of acceptance of them is the result of their own lack of value. They may feel guilty that their needs for connection, which are unmet, are too intense and burdensome, which can lead them to have very low self-esteem. Long term, they may experience lack of empathy, loneliness, anxiety, depression, rage, grandiosity, shame, exhibitionism, and emotional immaturity. These pathological defenses are passed down generationally, not genetically. Unless the cycle is broken, children will likely parent as they were parented.

—

Erica Komisar’s paper Self-Focus or Sacrifice? What It Will Take to Rebuild the Mental Health of the Next Generation, published by ARC Research in February 2025.[squarespace]
Komisar (a clinical social worker and psychoanalyst) writes:
“Unhealthy narcissism, also known as secondary narcissism, … is the result of emotional or physical neglect in early childhood, which results in the withdrawal of interest from relationships as a defensive manoeuvre… Kohut called secondary narcissism a disease of deficiency; it is a maladaptive way of protecting the fragile ego. It is a defence designed to protect the individual against anxiety and other painful feelings connected with the disappointment in their mother; rather than invest emotion or depend upon an undependable mother or attachment figure, a person invests that emotion in themselves, or leans into defensive independence.”
This lines up closely with the recording’s language on neglect, the Kohut “disease of deficiency” quote, defensive independence, and the generational, non-genetic transmission of these patterns.

Because I carry it well

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Because I Carry It Well


There is a weight I wear like skin,
so practiced no one sees it strain,
an architecture of discipline
built to disguise the rain.
I speak a fluent, silent tongue,
denial dressed as poise,
each measured breath, each word half-sung,
to mute the inner noise.
I’ve learned to hold my face like glass,
composed, unmoved, serene,
so no one watching as I pass
suspects what lies between.
For falling apart was not a door
I ever dared unlatch,
I built my house on a silent floor
and learned to hide the scratch.
Beneath the ribs, in unlit rooms,
the wounded hold their fort,
a sanctum sealed against the glooms
no gentle word can thwart.
Why won’t we speak the truths we bear?
Because language cannot hold
the shape of loss, the shape of care
we’ve never learned to fold.
We fear the eyes too quick to stare,
the hearts too slow to listen,
we fear the weight we’d make them bear,
a burden none would christen.
So many walk in common clothes
with ordinary faces,
yet carry graves that no one knows,
in unremembered places.
They rise, they work, they laugh on time,
they nod, they pass, they cope,
and no one hears the buried rhyme
of sorrow dressed as hope.
We are the torn, the split, the two —
the one who longs, the one who hides,
we ache to let the truth break through
yet swallow it like tides.
So we stay sealed, polite, composed,
our sorrow kept unspoken,
because to show what lies exposed
feels like confessing broken.
“It doesn’t hurt,” we say, and smile,
while everything within has drowned,
this is the softest, saddest lie —

the loudest grief that makes no sound.

…

DCG

Because I carry it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy. I’ve simply become fluent in the language of pretending nothing hurts when everything does. I make it look effortless because falling apart was never an option. Because I carry it well.”

The price of being alive 

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The Price of Being Alive


We trade a cardboard kingdom for a clock,
And call the restless bargain growing wise;
Then chase the child we buried in a box,
While little glowing screens reduce our eyes.
We sell the morning sunlight by the hour,
To buy a bigger room we never use;
We praise exhaustion as a form of power,
Then wonder why the soul begins to bruise.
A man in traffic dreams of being free,
A free man dreams of better traffic lanes;
We build a life around efficiency,
Then act surprised when nothing good remains.
We make our bodies carry all the cost,
For futures dressed in expensive clothes;
Then pay the doctor for the years we lost,
And ask why peace is hard to diagnose.
The wallet grows; the living room grows cold,
The calendar becomes a little god;
We buy what every commercial has sold,
Then feel our emptiness beneath the nod.
We worry over storms not yet in sight,
And miss the rain that blesses us today;
The mind rehearses every future night,
While life, unbothered, quietly walks away.
We call this planning, being safe, prepared,
As if control could make the grave decline;
But fear keeps every tender moment spared,
Behind a locked door marked: “Not yet. Not mine.”
We speak of death as if it’s bad for sales,
A rude old guest who should not call at all;
Yet every living thing leaves little trails,
And every giant learns that he is small.
The irony is almost hard to miss:
We chase a life too frightened to be lived;
We pass the cup, suspicious of the kiss,
Then curse the world for what it never gave.
Perhaps the child was not so blind or weak;
He knew a day could be a universe;
He cried when hurt, said what he meant to speak,
And did not turn each wanting to a curse.
So keep your money, but do not become
A servant to the things that money buys;
Make room for grief, for laughter, for the sun,
For one true face that looks into your eyes.
We rush from childhood, spend our health for gold,
Then fear tomorrow till today has fled;
But life is here: be present, brave, and whole—
We die once; do not practice being dead.

…

DCG

What surprises me most about humankind is that we get bored of our childhood, rush to grow up, and long to be children again. That we lose our health to make money and then lose our money to restore our health. That by thinking anxiously about the future, we forget the present, such that we live in neither the present nor the future. That we live as if we’ll never die, and die as though we’ve never lived.

— “What surprises me most about humankind…” — source unverified; commonly attributed to the Dalai Lama