It is reasonable to assert that the newness of a relationship, the newness in the pursuit of other ambitions in life are what motivates, identifies, and conserves our enamored states. To some, driving down a highway never traveled, to others it may be the process of building a skill into what may become a very lucrative enterprise. The excitement we experience of what has not yet transpired, and imagining just how it might be occupies the unpredictable possibilities that seed our lives. The unknown factors we cannot anticipate, and our expectations of a situation will drive our reactions to what has not yet come to be in our world. Much of what our lives are comprised of are the resulting realities we eventually encounter; they are not the determiners of our fate, but rather, they are just the multitude of circumstances we will find ourselves in. These are what I call the fortuitous contingencies that populate our existence.
We are the captain’s and navigators in our travels. We are the agents that decide on how to proceed with our lives when circumstances (foreseen and unforeseen) cross our paths. Skillful navigators usually avoid “treacherous” waters before any misconduct enters into the equation in their dealings with others, though, one must admit that risk taking at times is essential for growth and expansion of one’s participation.
In my experience I have been fortunate enough to benefit from mistakes and miscalculations I’ve made and the mistakes and oversight’s of others by proxy. From a very early age I have had a keen interest in understanding human behavior, and later those who have made an effort to “self-actualize” themselves. I have studied scores of philosophers, psychologists, mystics, and spiritual leaders to find answers for questions I have repeatedly asked for many years of my life. However, despite the preparation one can undertake their still exists the element of unpredictability, and the uncertainty in this capricious world we inhabit.
The discovery of unrealized dreams, or finding yourself uncovering a passion that has been dormant within your soul has a tremendous effect on your being. One can become awakened to a whole new life of possibility. The direction one travels in life is up to the helmsmen. One cannot change the waters, but one can navigate what already exists, or maybe steer into what had not been thought possible before. If a change of the water is not possible, than possibly a change in one’s thinking can alter the course altogether and therefore change the dynamics of the situation. Instead of a ship, use a submarine!
“So thoroughly and sincerely are we compelled to live, reverencing our life, and denying the possibility of change. This is the only way, we say; but there are as many ways as there can be drawn radii from one centre.”― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
“Man often becomes what he believes himselfto be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
“A mindset of gratitude lifts the veil of bitterness and allows you to see beauty and possibility.”― Steve Maraboli