It Starts with a Hello


It starts with a hello.  If you want to begin a conversation with people dear to you, but because of a misunderstanding or some miscalculated past communication fall-out our pride and thinking keeps us from contacting the other person.  We fade and lose contact with those once close to us.  We will inhibit our motivation to re-connect with that person and fail to meet the other person on a level grounding.  This level grounding can only begin with hello and engage each other once again.  We must stay in the present, and not stay in the past.  We cannot control other people, we can only ask and try again to reestablish a relationship with those we lost favor with.  There are forces that we cannot control, influences we could not mitigate.  If we are not allowed to spend time with them, then they may never change their minds.  And if indeed they begin to spend time with us again, we can enable ourselves to re-connect a broken communication.

The most painful illustrations come from broken family relationships.  Even more devastating examples are in the broken parent/child relationships.


“To forgive is not for the “sole sake” of relieving another of their guilt, but rather for the “sake of the soul” that had been perpetrated upon!” —DC Gunnersen
“To invest into a memory that will only take you down a road that cannot be traveled is futile and counter-productive. It takes us away from the here and now, and it only impedes our well-being when we give nostalgic cadence to this venture.”
DC Gunnersen


It starts with a hello

So much time has passed

I hate to see you go

In younger days, we trusted and loved each other

But somehow in today’s world

You have no words to utter

I do care how this came about

I can only fix what I know

If you don’t talk

I become an exile with nothing to show

The judge, the jury, and the sentence

Does this fit the crime?

I think of twinkle twinkle

I think of the twinkle twinkle nursery rhyme

When the blazing sun is gone,

When the nothing shines upon,

Then you show your little light,

Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.

Then the traveler in the dark,

Thanks you for your tiny spark,

He could not see which way to go,

If you did not twinkle so.

In the dark blue sky you keep,

And often through my curtains peep,

For you never shut your eye,

Till the sun is in the sky.

As your bright and tiny spark,

Lights the traveler in the dark.

Though I know not what you are,

Twinkle, twinkle, little star.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star.

How I wonder what you are.

Up above the world so high,

Like a diamond in the sky.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star.

How I wonder what you are.

How I wonder what you are.



It starts with a hello
It starts with the willingness to re-connect
If we are correct, than it is only a matter of time before we have confirmation
If we are wrong, we may miss out on a once treasured relationship
We may have impeded what should not have come to pass
We may have misjudged someone and our own thinking can be corrected
If we don’t forgive them, than we should at some future point forgive ourselves