A Loss for Words


Many mysterious things can happen to us during our lives.  When events happen that we cannot explain, we are sometimes at a loss for words!  I have tended to be a hopeless romantic for reasons I cannot explain.  A part of my nature that permeates the very essence of my being I cannot seem to get around because it tends to run deep within me.

There are countless stories that spend much of our attention on how we bond with others, how we fall in love, or how we attach ourselves to others that we cannot fully comprehend.  Social psychology has its explanations, many other takes are found in popular culture and literature from all around the globe.  Whether we mythologize or monetize these sentiments, we as humans still experience them on some level.

For me, moments such as these are always never planned, they are never anticipated when they occur, and they forever leave an impression.  It seems that timing is everything, but is it?  One must be receptive, and one must somehow be spiritually aligned for any meaningful interaction to take place.  But I implore you to find examples in your life that left you speechless in your attempt to find the reasons that completely explain how you felt when those that enchanted you entered into your life?  I do not mean any libidinous attraction that captures your interest, but an essence that seems familiar and compels you to take notice.

In movies such as Somewhere in Time (1980), and I Origins (2014), the characters within these movies had connections they could not seem to rationally fathom.  I use these movies to show the reader the spirit of this post.  Even though these are fictional stories, they shadow a reference for that you may relate with if you have not felt something like this in your own life.


I Origins (2014) Poster



Priya Varma:  You know a scientist once asked the Dalai Lama, “What would you do if something scientific disproved your religious beliefs?” And he said, after much thought, “I would look at all the papers.   I’d take a look at all the research and really try to understand things.   And in the end, if it was clear that the scientific evidence disproved my spiritual beliefs, I would change my beliefs.”
Ian:  That’s a good answer.
Priya Varma:  Ian… what would you do if something spiritual disproved your scientific beliefs?


When you find someone who captivates your interest, there follows an amazing process that overtakes you when you seek to learn more about them.  Your world is now adjusting to include others in your sphere of influence and doors seem to open that were not present before.  In my life because of the influence that presided over me when I was near them, I approached the world differently.  Their perceptions took my interest and were special to me as I became curious about what makes them…..well,…..them.  You do things like finding yourself listening to the music they like, or maybe you read the same books that they like or become interested in activities that they engage in.  You immerse yourself into a part of their world because of forces you cannot verbalize.

The discovery of how they feel about things takes your interest as you find out by listening very intently to them about how they see the world.  I cannot voice that this happens for all the people we will meet in the world, and if it does occur, it is likely unique to our valuation of them.  There are times when we meet people who cannot be categorized with the logical mind.  Something else is exigent within us that motivates our ability to connect with them.  We may not have the same views, share the same faith, or even like the same foods, but what does become clear is that we find ourselves charmed by something deeper we cannot rationally explain.



I for one do not know if I am just another hopeless soul floating in a sea among other souls randomly passing each other in the tides, or if there exists a magnetism that pulls others close to us when our proximity is within range.  I do think this may be the case based on my own personal experiences, since I cannot find any other explanation to disprove my spiritual beliefs.



Rabindranath Tagore
“Unending LoveI seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times…
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, it’s age old pain,
It’s ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star, piercing the darkness of time.
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers,
Shared in the same shy sweetness of meeting,
the distressful tears of farewell,
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you
The love of all man’s days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life.
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours –
And the songs of every poet past and forever.”
Rabindranath Tagore, Selected Poems

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

Julia Quinn

“It suddenly made sense.  Only twice in his life had he felt this inexplicable, almost mystical attraction to a woman. He’d thought it remarkable, to have found two, when in his heart he’d always believed there was only one perfect woman out there for him.
His heart had been right. There was only one.”
Julia Quinn, An Offer From a Gentleman

Brian L. Weiss

“For truly we are all angels temporarily hiding as humans.”
Brian L. Weiss

Kelvin O'Ralph

“You’re the fire burning inside of me.”
Kelvin O’Ralph, The Beginning

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