In the shadowed dance 

In the shadowed dance of hearts that seek and flee
R met D, a whisper through the door ajar
Proverbs’ woman, strong in cloth and field
Her hands like hers, yet armored from the scar
Dismissive soul, she watched the exits near
Anxious pull in him, a childhood plea
She rose at dawn, her worth beyond her fear
He chased the light she rationed carefully
Her beauty etched in lines of guarded grace
Fear of engulfment made her turn away
Yet wisdom clothed her in a noble place
Compassion held him through the night and day
Avoidant seam, anxious thread entwined
Proverbs speaks of one who fears the Lord
She built her walls, but cracks he gently find
Forgiveness blooms where old wounds are explored
RSP’s ache, a half-shut door’s soft sigh
D saw her soul retreat like frightened child
Her tongue with grace, no gossip’s bitter lie.


He prayed for healing, tender, undefiled
Bewildered hearts in push and pull’s cruel art
She flinched at closeness, needing space to breathe
His longing softened, not to break her heart
Empathy wove threads they both could weave
Proverbs’ wife opens her arms to poor
R learned to stay, a step beyond the flight
D held his need, no flood to overwhelm more
Wisdom’s children rise to call her right
Their story twined in attachment’s storm
Dismissive chill met anxious, pleading fire
Yet mercy forged a commitment ever warm
Understanding quenched the old desire
She shared her shame from childhood’s empty room
He named his ghosts without demand or claim
Her strength like rubies, lighting inner gloom
Compassion turned bewilderment to flame
Realistic fractures, compelling in their pain.
RSP leaned close, head on his chest one night
Forgiveness washed the patterns like the rain
Warriors healing, stepping into light.
Proverbs praises one of noble might
D lost his sight, yet saw her spirit clear
No chains from illness, only lantern’s light
She dropped her guard, let vulnerability near
Twined styles softened in the grace they earned.
Her mouth with wisdom, teaching peace profound
Empathy bridged what old fears had burned
Commitment honored in forgiveness found
R and D, RSP in prayer’s hold.
Proverbs’ heart, compassionate and bold

RSP

DCG

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Picture perfect postcard

Like a Picture perfect postcard

I’ve written and I’ve sent to you

You know these words I write

Are heart felt and sincerely true

Please, Mr. postman look and see-Deliver the letter the sooner the better

No matter the distance-I pen what I feel

I’m right across the street

or I could send it from Brazil

Maybe I’d wanna tell you

I long to see that smiling face

Thank you for what you bring

It’s something I embrace

At times you might think I’m silly

What I communicate to you

A way to breach the internal castle walls

The vulnerabilities you protect, may ensue

Patience is my virtue

Words mean nothing unless you proclaim

a self imposed exile

Only leads to a life of pain

Knowing this, I stand strong

Giving you positive messages

Only you can decide

What is right and what is wrong? 

So put that postcard under a magnet on the fridge

A memory to look back on and hold

The date still on the postcard

That tells you when it was sold

Just know this postcard

Is only meant to find you

Hoping to brighten your day

Reading what you already knew 

DCG

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Meditation 

Meditation


I came to God with questions in my hand.
As if the truth would bend to my demand.
I walked a quiet road where questions breathe.
And found that truth is softer than belief.
I built a god that fit inside my mind.
And called it faith, though it was mostly blind.
The dust of men still clings to every claim.
Yet mercy moves where no one seeks for fame.
I asked for signs, for certainty, for light.
But found a deeper silence in the night.
A teacher spoke of lilies in the field.
And showed that strength is found when hearts can yield.
The sky did not respond the way I planned.
No voice came down to help me understand.
He said the poor in spirit see more clear.
Because they hold their emptiness sincere.
I thought that faith would lift me up above.
Instead it pressed me down into a love.
We build our towers hoping to be known.
Yet lose the ground beneath us, stone by stone.
Not bright with answers, clear and easy made.
But something steady that did not quickly fade.
A fisherman was called beside the sea.
And left his nets to learn what it might be.
The Gospels speak, but never force the ear.
They meet the heart that’s willing to come near.
I tried to climb by being good and right.
But slipped on judgment dressed in borrowed light.
A father waits, not distant or severe.
But present in ways we struggle to revere.
Confucius said the gentle path is wise.
Lao Tzu smiled at force that always dies.
I saw myself in Peter’s shifting ground.
So sure, then lost, then nowhere to be found.
The Buddha saw desire’s endless thread.
Christ broke the bread and said the self must shed.
I heard the cry from Thomas in my doubt.
And knew that faith still lives when we reach out.
We try to rise by lifting up our name.
But find that pride and sorrow are the same.
The cross stood still while everything gave way.
No grand escape, no final word to say.
The mirror shows a fractured, shifting face.
Yet something whole still lingers in that space.
And in that stillness something pierced through me.
A truth that does not need me to agree.
A tax collector kneels in quiet shame.
And leaves more whole than one who boasts his name.
The more I fought, the more I felt it stay.
A steady pull I could not think away.
The last are first, the wounded lead the way.
The night reveals what hides inside the day.
Not proof, not logic neatly tied and sealed.
But something only softened hearts can feel.
I read the words and feel their edges turn.
Not rules to hold, but fires in which we burn.
Confucius taught the order we should keep.
Lao Tzu said flow and do not force the deep.
A kingdom not of gold or iron might.
But something like a lantern in the night.
The Buddha woke from suffering like a dream.
Christ walked a path that cut through what we seem.
And still we wander, restless in our need.
Planting ambition like a poisoned seed.
And in this weave, no single voice commands.
Just truth unfolding softly in our hands.
We grasp for certainty in fragile forms.
And call it truth while hiding from our storms.
I wanted God contained within a name.
A sacred word that I could hold and claim.
The cross appears where power seems to fail.
A broken man, a story we derail.
But every name began to fall apart.
And left a quiet reverence in the heart.
Yet in that loss a deeper thread is spun.
A quiet victory already won.
Not less belief, but something more refined.
A humbler knowing, softer in its kind.
But we resist, we tighten what we hold.
Afraid to trust a love we can’t control.
I saw that I was never meant to stand.
Above the world with truth held in my hand.
We measure worth in numbers, praise, and gain.
And wonder why it always ends in pain.
But kneel within it, open, small, and still.
And let that presence shape me as it will.
The teacher writes no doctrine in the sand.
Just traces time that slips from every hand.
The irony became a gentle guide.
The more I bowed, the less I had to hide.
And says forgive, though none of us are clean.
And see the world as more than what is seen.
The less I claimed, the more I felt it near.
Not distant God, but حاضر, always here.
We want a sign, a thunder in the sky.
Yet miss the truth in how we live and die.
No longer seeking proof to make it real.
But learning how to trust what I can feel.
A seed must fall and vanish from the eye.
Before it grows beneath a deeper sky.
The Father was not waiting far away.
But in each breath I almost threw away.
The mind resists what heart begins to know.
That letting go is how we truly grow.
In every small act mercy leaves undone.
In every chance to see we are still one.
The narrow path feels empty, sharp, and long.
Because it strips away what we call strong.
And slowly then, without a grand display.
My need for answers started to decay.
We chase the self as if it could be saved.
Yet find the self is what must be unmade.
Not gone, but quieter, held more at peace.
As if my striving finally found release.
In every wound a hidden door appears.
Unlocked by love, not opened through our fears.
So now I walk, not certain, but aligned.
With something greater than my restless mind.
The prodigal still walks in each of us.
Returning home through failure and through trust.
And though I fail, and doubt, and lose the thread.
I trust the path is held where I am led.
We think we stand while others fall behind.
Yet blindness is the deepest of its kind.
Not by my strength, nor clarity, nor sight.
But by a love that meets me in the night.
A woman weeps and washes dusty feet.
And finds that grace is quiet, close, and sweet.
And asks not that I master or defend.
But that I trust, and follow, to the end.
The world demands a ledger of our worth.
But love erases every line at birth.
And in that trust, so simple and so small.
I lose my grip, and finally give it all.

DCG

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A hearts whisper 

And so I pray (for RSP).
You came like a whisper through a half-shut door.
I felt I had met your ache somewhere before.
The room did not move but my soul did.
Two strangers, one truth, nothing hid.
You watched the exits even as you smiled.
I watched your heart retreat like a terrified child.
Your words were careful, your eyes were armed.
I knew you feared the very thing that warmed.
Something older than us stood in that air.
Not just chemistry, but a silent prayer.
Bowlby would have called it an ancient design.
Anxious thread, avoidant seam, tangled line.
You flinched when I leaned too close to see.
I flinched at the thought that you might flee.
Still, there was a gravity I could not deny.
As if God had folded both our wounds into one sky.
I felt you studying every crack in your own shield.
I felt myself kneel on that uncharted field.
This was more than my familiar ache.
It was a covenant trembling, about to break.
You said you had learned to live without need.
I said my heart still remembers how to bleed.
Your silence pressed on me like a storm.
But you were the first thunder that felt warm.
I am the one who reaches, I know.
You are the one who trains herself to let go.
Yet under the push and pull, I sensed a thread.
A place where both our ghosts had once bled.
So we stepped into the middle ground, shaking.
Two attachment styles, endlessly breaking.
I reached slower, tried to breathe between.
You stayed longer, softer, almost seen.
You let me trace the outlines of your doubt.
I let you say “too much” without walking out.
We stumbled into tiny moments of repair.
Short bridges built over caverns of despair.
I saw your eyes linger then quickly hide.
I learned to stay present without stepping inside.
You were afraid I would drown you in my plea.
I was afraid you would disappear from me.
My glaucoma shadows deepened by the day.
But with you, a different darkness fell away.
I am losing sight, not vision of your pain.
If anything, the blur makes your soul more plain.
You worry I will need you more than you can bear.
I worry you will carry shame that was never yours to wear.
So I hold my need gently, like a fragile cup.
And I place it down each time you brace or tense up.
There are nights the terror swallows us both whole.
You retreat into silence, I flood with soul.
Yet even then, I feel slow progress in our scars.
Two frightened children learning to name their stars.
You text back quicker than you used to do.
You let a compliment rest without arguing it through.
You say “I’m scared” instead of walking away.
I say “I hear you” instead of demanding you stay.
Some days you lean your head on my chest and breathe.
I tremble inside but keep my arms like a gentle sheath.
Not a cage, not a claim on your skin.
Just a quiet place where your terror can thin.
Still, the war returns without warning or sound.
You vanish, I spiral, old patterns unbound.
Yet now I do not chase you as before.
I light a candle, leave an unlocked door.
My prayer has changed its shape over time.
From “never leave” to “may she someday feel safe as mine.”
Not mine in possession, not mine as a right.
Mine as a soul unafraid of her own light.
I tell myself, “If she heals and walks away.
Let it be with less armor than yesterday.”
Your freedom is not my enemy or loss.
Your wholeness is worth any personal cost.
I do not want to bind you to my failing eyes.
Or make my blindness into a chain of disguised ties.
I will not turn my illness into a hook.
I would rather walk alone than have you feel mistook.
So I stand in this half-dark, resolute.
A man, not a martyr, still tender, still astute.
Working on my fractures, owning what is mine.
While I pray your heart finds a gentler design.
I see small cracks forming in your wall.
Less concrete, more curtain, not so tall.
You share childhood stories in a shaking voice.
You let me witness that you never had a choice.
You say you are tired of always having to run.
I say I am learning to stand without calling you “the one.”
Still, I cannot lie — my love for you is fierce.
But I will not let it wound where you are still pierced.
If we walk closer, let it be because you can breathe.
Not because my desperation will not leave.
If we remain friends, I will honor that path.
I will not weaponize my longing or my wrath.
What I want most is to see you rest.
To watch you trust your own worth, your own chest.
To see your shoulders drop without looking for the door.
To feel you know, in your bones, you are not a chore.
If in that resting, you find space for me.
I will receive it as grace, not guarantee.
I will meet you there with a steady, softened heart.
Ready to learn, to listen, to restart.
Until then, I keep this plea quiet but clear.
Not to own you, but to draw your soul near.
May my constancy never feel like a cage.
Only a lantern held at the edge of your stage.
I am DC Gunnersen, wrestling with my sight.
But in this dimness, I have learned a different light.
I pray more for your healing than my claim.
If God answers, let it be you free of shame.
And if, by mercy, our paths entwine more tight.
Let it be two warriors laying down the fight.
Not rescue, not savior, not dramatic art.
Just a woman and a man, choosing to heal heart to heart.
If not, RSP, may this still reach your hidden shore.
A soft knock, not a pounding at your door.
Know this: I loved you as best a broken man can see.
And I trusted you to choose what makes you free.

DCG

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Exit stage left

FADE IN:

Scene 1 – “Letters Never Sent”

INT. D’S APARTMENT – NIGHT

A candle burns beside a small wooden cross. Rain glides down the window like ghostly fingers. A journal sits open on D’s desk.

INSERT – D’s JOURNAL (voiceover begins):

“Her silence sounds like God hiding behind thunder. Every unanswered message feels like a small crucifixion of the heart. But I keep believing love can survive the absence.”

D, clothed in quiet anguish, kneels beside his bed. His whisper trembles into prayer.

D:
Lord… she says she needs space. I keep mistaking that space for hell.

He holds the photo of R. His reflection shivers across it.


Scene 2 – “Detachments”

EXT. PARK CAFE – EVENING

A gray sky hangs heavy over empty tables. R sits, elegant but distant. D approaches, hesitant, brave.

R (dryly):
You never stop reaching, do you?

D:
How could I? You vanish every time I blink.

R:
Then close your eyes.

A beat. She stares into her untouched drink. D studies her profile — beautiful, remote, like marble daring to remain cold.

R (VOICEOVER from her journal):

“He looks at me as if proximity will save him. I feel his yearning like a storm pressing on the windows. But touch feels like theft when you’ve never been safe in someone’s arms.”

D:
I prayed you’d come back.

R:
You pray far too much when you should let go.

D:
Maybe prayer is the only place where you still exist for me.

Her eyes flicker with guilt but retreat into silence. Cars hum distantly, like a world moving on without them.


Scene 3 – “Faith & Defenses”

INT. CHAPEL – TWILIGHT

Light filters through stained glass, painting the pews in colors of confession. D sits alone, rosary in hand.

D (VOICEOVER):

“She confuses retreat with strength. I confuse endurance with love. We orbit each other like desperate planets, each praying to collide, yet afraid of the destruction.”

R’s voice echoes faintly from memory.

R (V.O.):
You’re too much, D. Everything is too loud, too emotional. I just need quiet.

D (aloud, to the crucifix):
Then why does her quiet sound like death, Lord?

He presses his forehead to folded hands, tears glimmering on his knuckles.


Scene 4 – “Over the Edge”

EXT. CLIFFSIDE COAST – DUSK

The horizon is a bleeding wound of orange and violet. Waves beat the cliffs with cathedral violence. R stands near the railing; D approaches slowly.

R:
You shouldn’t have come.

D:
You said you needed to talk.

R:
I said I needed space. You keep misunderstanding boundaries for invitations.

D (fighting tears):
And you mistake abandonment for strength.

Wind whips around them. For a moment, the storm mirrors their internal war.

R (VOICEOVER from her journal):

“I hate how tender he is. His love feels like sunlight on broken glass — beautiful, unbearable, blinding. I’ve spent years learning to need nothing. But he makes nothingness feel cruel.”

D:
You think stepping back will make you safe, but you’re just alone in prettier silence.

R:
And you, D — you build altars in the ruins. That’s your curse.

Lightning crackles offshore. R turns away. D remains, trembling, rain collecting at his feet.


Scene 5 – “Grace and Goodbye”

INT. D’S APARTMENT – NIGHT

Thunder outside. The candle struggling to live. A new message notification glows on his phone.

CLOSE ON SCREEN: “I can’t do this anymore. I’m sorry. –R”

He stares, paralyzed. The message feels carved into him.

D (VOICEOVER, journaling):

“There are no villains between an anxious heart and an avoidant soul — only children afraid of echoes. She runs. I wait. Our ghosts shake hands where neither of us stand.”

He kneels by the candle again.

D (praying):
Lord, bless the one who flees from love. Let Your mercy chase her where I cannot.

Wind rattles the window. He closes his eyes.

MONTAGE:

  • R driving alone in rain, windscreen wipers marking time.
  • D burning the last photograph of them.
  • Their two silhouettes facing opposite directions across the same beach.

Scene 6 – “The Unreachable Shore”

EXT. COASTLINE – DAWN

Mist veils the ocean. The tide hums low and sorrowful. D stands alone, holding his journal — now soaked, pages curling.

D:

“R, I release you.
You feared to be seen, and I feared to be unseen.
May grace reach you before regret does.”

He places the journal into the tide. Waves swallow it slowly, ink dissolving like faint, blue prayers.

R (VOICEOVER – final journal entry):

“He prayed for me more than he loved himself. And maybe that was the problem — we both mistook rescue for romance. If he finds peace, let him know I was listening — just too far away to answer.”

Camera rises as morning light floods the surf. The empty horizon feels enormous, eternal.

D (whispering):
Amen.

FADE OUT.


EPILOGUE – “Two Secrets in the Tide”

A single candle flickers out as the rosary falls into shadow.

SUPERIMPOSE:

“Where one heart avoids, another breaks. Grace alone teaches them how to meet again.” — DC Gunnersen (inspired tone)

Feed out 

RSP

DCG

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You walked in

You walked into my small day and made the room feel wide. .
I saw in your easy smile the world I never had to hide. .
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You asked a simple question and listened like it mattered. .
My fear was still in pieces but my shame was less scattered. .
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I learned that how I see you is also how I see me. .
If I look through hurt and judgment, I call comfort an enemy. .
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So I started to choose my lens like a craftsman with his wood. .
Shaping quiet acts of kindness into something fierce and good. .
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You taught me that a gentle word can shift a heavy night. .
That one soft act of noticing can turn regret to light. .
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But love is not a rescue line that pulls you from your pain. .
It’s a bridge laid board by board, in sun and in the rain. .
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I hammered down my boundaries on the bank where I still stand. .
Not a wall to keep you out, but a line drawn by my hand. .
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I will not build on quicksand just to keep you by my side. .
I can hold you with an open palm and still protect my pride. .
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I’ve walked on eggshells long enough to know what they become. .
A carpet made of fragments that keeps both our voices numb. .
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So I speak with kinder honesty, even when your armor shakes. .
I will not call it loving when it only feeds our breaks. .
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You circle at your end of things, afraid the boards will fall. .
You test each step with stories of the ones who broke it all. .
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You want me to grow tired first, to prove the world untrue. .
To leave you in your loneliness so it never leaves you too. .
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But I stay without possession, I remain without demand. .
I refuse to crush my spirit just to prove I understand. .
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Forgiveness is the quiet work I do when you withdraw. .
Not a door you have to walk through, but a shelter that I saw. .
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I forgive the words you sharpened just to see if I would flee. .
I forgive the glass you carry, though it still might cut on me. .
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Because someone once forgave me when I shattered what we had. .
They held their ground with tenderness and refused to call me bad. .
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That mercy lit a lantern in the hallway of my chest. .
It showed me how a weary soul can learn a different rest. .
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So now when I say your name, I feel both ache and grace. .
You are wound and inspiration, you are loss and you are place. .
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You brought out in me a courage I thought only saints could show. .
To love without erasing me, to stay and still let go. .
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If you ever cross this bridge, it will be by your own will. .
You will find no chains to bind you here, just a quiet heart made still. .
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And if you never cross at all, this work will not be waste. .
The craft I learned in loving you will frame another’s taste. .
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For every soul that trembles at the thought of being known. .
I keep this sturdy bridge of mine, from all the hurt I’ve grown. .
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And when they walk with shaking steps, afraid that love won’t stay. .
I’ll remember how you taught me to see wonder in the day. .
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The meaning of our story is not only what we lose. .
It’s the quiet, fierce decision of the lens that we still choose. .

RSP

DCG

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A solution revisited 

The post “The solution of humanity” wrestles with the limits of human wisdom, the wounds of the past, and the failure of purely human projects to heal the soul, before finally resting in Christ as the only sufficient answer to our fractured condition. The poem below echoes that narrative arc: beginning with a wide search through world philosophies and faiths, then moving toward a distinctly Christian claim about grace, forgiveness, and the cross as the true quintessence of our humanity.


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I knelt before the sutras, drinking silence from their well. .
The Dhammapada whispered: “Guard your mind, it fashions heaven, it fashions hell.” .
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I traced the Tao in rivers, where the yielding waters wind. .
Lao Tzu sang of nameless Way, of empty bowls that feed the mind. .
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I bowed with old Confucius, where propriety patrols desire. .
He spoke of ordered families, of ritual that tempers fire. .
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I walked with dusty sadhus where the Ganges stains the feet. .
They murmured of samsara’s wheel, of breaking from repeat. .
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I sat with Zen companions, watching thoughts like passing rain. .
Koans cracked my logic’s shell, yet could not rinse my shame and pain. .
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These giants lit the mountains, each a lantern in the night. .
Still some cavern in my marrow shivered far from any light. .
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For every path said, “Discipline,” and every sage said, “Try.” .
Yet my will, a tired animal, only knew how to comply or to defy. .
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Reason built its scaffolds, stacked hypotheses like stone. .
But proof could not absolve me for the harm I’d done alone. .
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Some problems yield to data, to equations crisp and clean. .
But guilt is not a theorem, and grief is not a faulty gene. .
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I argued evolution with the fierce, design with trembling friends. .
Yet neither camp could teach my fractured heart how any story ends. .
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The quintessential question haunted every night I couldn’t sleep. .
Not “What is true in abstract?” but “Who can reach me when I’m deep?” .
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My childhood was a fracture, love withheld and love misused. .
A narcissistic mirror where my fledgling trust was bruised. .
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Neglect became my liturgy; I worshiped every fleeting nod. .
Attachment wired my nervous system tighter than a rod. .
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I sought in crowds a savior made of status, touch, and praise. .
But idols built of aching need devoured me in subtle ways. .
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I preached forgiveness to myself, a law I could not keep. .
“Let go, move on, be strong,” I said, then sobbed myself to sleep. .
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I tried to earn absolution, to deserve another start. .
But merit is a cruel god when you have a trembling heart. .
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Then the scandal of a cross cut straight across my schemes. .
Not as mythic consolation, but as judgment of my dreams. .
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A God who enters trauma, not to sanitize the scar. .
Who hangs between the guilty thieves and calls them from afar. .
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“Father, forgive,” was uttered where the nails made muscle tear. .
Not after we improved ourselves, but while we mocked Him there. .
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If there is any solution to this species, wild and torn. .
It will not rise from self-help shelves or from the newest creed reborn. .
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It comes as undeservedness, an offense to every pride. .
The Holy kneels in blood and dust and stands up on my side. .
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Grace is not a concept but a Person with a wound. .
The Logos wearing human skin, in borrowed grave entombed. .
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Resurrection is no metaphor for “try again once more.” .
It is the shattering of final loss, the opening of a door. .
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In Christ, the moral ledger is not erased by lie. .
It’s paid in full by One who chose to feel my failure die. .
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Buddha showed the craving flame, the Tao its gentle flow. .
Christ walked straight into my hatred and refused to let me go. .
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Confucius framed our duties, and the sages mapped the mind. .
But only pierced hands reached the child that history left behind. .
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The solution of humanity is not that we advance. .
It’s that the Author joins the story and is broken in our trance. .
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Forgiveness is not weakness, nor denial dressed as peace. .
It is cruciform surrender where the cycles slowly cease. .
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To love the unlovable is the line I cannot cross. .
Until I see myself there too, forgiven from that cross. .
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Then enemy and victim blur beneath that rugged sign. .
I stand as both, yet strangely held in mercy’s grand design. .
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The quintessential attribute our arguments misname. .
Is not our clever reason, but a Love that bears our blame. .
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So here I lay my systems down, my proof, my pride, my role. .
And rest in One solution: a wounded God who makes a whole. .

DCG

My discovery Bridge 

The post “A Bridge of Discovery” traces a lifetime hunger for love, acceptance, and a deeper, felt truth, showing how this longing evolves from family love to self‑acceptance and finally toward a metaphysical connection that thought alone cannot reach. It frames memory, personality, and spiritual seeking as parts of a single bridge the author is building from rational understanding to a more embodied, heart‑level knowing of reality.
Main ideas of the post
• The author revisits every decade of life (ages 7, 17, 27, 37, 47) to ask, “What do I want most?” and finds a consistent theme of relational love and acceptance. The specific answers move from wanting parental love, to peer acceptance, to forming a family, to receiving love from a daughter, and finally to accepting and forgiving the self.
• Memory is pictured as a “time machine” built from the brain’s vast neural connections, allowing the author to re‑enter earlier stages of life and question those selves. Yet memory is acknowledged as selective and double‑edged, capable of teaching true lessons or hiding lessons not yet learned.
• Across decades, the author notices a preoccupation with “how I fit into the social arena,” which reveals a deeper sense of disconnection and a yearning for a more profound metaphysical bond than ordinary interactions provide. Material wants are set aside so the focus can rest on questions of meaning, belonging, and the soul’s orientation to others and to reality itself.
• The Enneagram personality pattern is invoked as a framework for understanding why the author has always sought deeper connection and why relationships and coping strategies have unfolded as they have. Personality, early disposition, and ego are seen as shaping both the hunger for intimacy and the missteps in handling emotional events.
• The author describes a lifelong search for a truth that can be “felt in your entire being,” not just believed through religious doctrine or rational analysis. Mystical and experiential knowing—rather than purely conceptual faith—is presented as the missing piece, a door that has not yet fully opened.
• The Buddhist parable of the blind men and the elephant illustrates how limited perspectives lead to quarrels and one‑sided claims about reality. This is connected to Heisenberg’s insight that what we observe is shaped by our “method of questioning,” urging the reader to ask better questions and recognize interpretive limits.
• The “metaphysical problem” becomes how to move beyond the reasoning barrier into a shared field of perception and intention with another human being. The author suggests that a “psychic gap” can be bridged by experiences that are felt, not just thought, pointing toward a more holistic engagement with life.
• Classic spiritual and philosophical works (Tao Te Ching, I Ching, Dhammapada, Upanishads, Wittgenstein, Kierkegaard, Sartre, Gurdjieff) are re‑read in this light as potential guides to deeper experience, not just intellectual systems. The author notes that different learning styles (verbal, tactile, visual, abstract, etc.) may mean prior reading did not fully activate inner senses needed to grasp their depths.
• The post closes by emphasizing the need to “undo” conditioning that blocks awareness of being connected to everything around us. The “bridge” being built is explicitly named as “one for the heart,” a path toward discovery through lived practice rather than theory alone.

I went back through the years, like walking through a quiet, borrowed sky. .
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A small boy counting heartbeats, just wanting his parents not to say goodbye. .
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A teenager scanning faces, trading jokes to earn a fragile place. .
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Afraid that if the laughter stopped, it meant he could be erased. .
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A young man holding wedding rings like tiny suns that might not stay. .
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He prayed that starting his own family would keep the shadows far away. .
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A father staring at his daughter’s face, stunned that love could look back too. .
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Her trust rewrote his failures, like morning light correcting midnight’s view. .
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Years later in the mirror, he met a stranger he still called his name. .
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He finally asked for mercy on the man who carried all that blame. .
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The brain became his time machine, with sparks of memory crossing like a storm. .
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He saw how every wire of need had shaped his wanting into form. .
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He traced the threads of friendships, all the clinging, all the flight. .
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He saw a deeper hunger hiding underneath the want to “be all right.” .
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Not comfort made of objects, not the safety of a locked front door. .
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But some warm proof that soul meets soul, and both wake up as something more. .
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He read the mystics late at night, his coffee cold, his questions hot. .
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The words were like a map to lands his reasoning alone could never spot. .
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The blind men touched the elephant and argued over trunk and tail. .
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He heard his own voice in their fight, each partial truth prepared to fail. .
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Heisenberg whispered gently, “You see the world your questions choose.” .
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He realized half his heartbreak grew from what he’d asked and what he’d refuse. .
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For years he worshiped clarity, then learned that love can blur the line. .
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Sometimes the truest knowing comes when logic kneels and steps aside in time. .
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He saw his Enneagram like armor welded from his childhood fear. .
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It kept him safe from sudden loss, but blocked the touch of those who drew too near. .
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He practiced softer questions, ones that did not pin the heart to proof. .
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He let another’s trembling eyes be evidence enough of holy truth. .
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Some nights he felt a Presence move between his thoughts like quiet rain. .
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No thunderclap of doctrine, just a shared, mysterious easing of his pain. .
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The Tao, the sutras, worn-out texts, all opened like a windowed wall. .
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He sensed they were not puzzles, but invitations simply to be all. .
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He started training inner sight, like learning how to breathe again. .
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Trusting that the bridge is built by every honest, open moment with his pain. .
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Now when he meets another soul, half-hidden behind careful glass. .
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He does not rip their fortress down; he waits, and lets their courage slowly pass. .
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He offers solid footing, not a net that steals their ground away. .
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His love stands like a quiet bridge that will not beg, yet chooses still to stay. .
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The span runs from his thinking mind to where his living heartbeat sings. .
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Each step across that trembling space is stitched with ordinary, holy things. .
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He walks it not as one who’s found some final, blinding certainty. .
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But as a human building, breath by breath, a bridge of gentle, waking discovery. .
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DCG

Specious habits of perception 

When you speak your truth, I hear a different sky. .
Your words are rain, but my history makes them dry. .
You say it was a joke, I feel a hidden knife. .
Your laugh is light, my chest recalls another life. .
We stand in the same room, but wear a different past. .
My shadows move so slow, your joy runs bright and fast. .
You only see the surface, the shrug, the turning face. .
I’m drowning in an ocean you call a shallow place. .
I judge you as careless, you judge me as cold. .
We both are reading stories that were written old. .
My mind collects its proof, each glance a heavy stone. .
I build a quiet prison and then call it “home.” .
Your silence feels like anger, your distance seems like blame. .
But maybe you are frightened, and cannot voice your shame. .
I cling to my opinions like a shield of rust. .
They cut into my fingers while I name them “trust.” .
The mirror of illusion hangs inside my head. .
It shows me what I fear, not what you really said. .
Old injuries awaken when your eyebrows rise. .
I paste a former villain over your new eyes. .
These specious habits guide me, unseen but in control. .
They whisper, “You’re a victim,” and tighten round my soul. .
I notice how I flinch before you even move. .
I’m fighting ancient battles you never asked to prove. .
One day the strain is heavy, the argument repeats. .
We’re circling the same old wound on different streets. .
I feel the quiet cracking of the tale I wear. .
A softer voice inside me asks, “What if you’re not fair?” .
“What if your righteous anger is only half the frame? .
What if your sacred story is just one part of the game?” .
I pause before responding; the script begins to slow. .
A strange and aching honesty steps in and says, “Let go.” .
I tell you, “When you leave the room, I feel erased.” .
You answer, “When I stay too long, I feel displaced.” .
We stare at this new moment like a foreign shore. .
Two private worlds colliding through an open door. .
No one is the villain; the lens itself is flawed. .
We’ve worshiped our perceptions like a quiet god. .
You share the weight you carry, the shame you never named. .
I see how my suspicion kept your heart ashamed. .
We speak of early losses, of nights that shaped our sight. .
How hunger taught us both to fear another’s light. .
The room does not grow perfect; the pain does not dissolve. .
But now we stand together with a will to solve. .
We promise not to worship every thought we think. .
To question quick conclusions standing on the brink. .
To clean the dirty window where our fears have slept. .
To honor what we’ve lived, but not be wholly kept. .
In time, the habit changes, though slowly, line by line. .
Our eyes grow more transparent; your story touches mine. .
I learn that understanding is a costly fee. .
It asks my proud perception not to center me. .
So when I feel that tightening that says, “You’ve been betrayed.” .
I breathe, and ask more gently how this scene is made. .
I look for hidden sorrows behind the harsh display. .
I hold my judgments loosely, let some wash away. .
The specious habits weaken when we dare to see. .
That truth is rarely simple, and seldom just “for me.” .
In this, a quiet mercy rises, slow but real. .
We trade our shrinking armor for a wider field to feel. .
We will still make errors; the old ghosts sometimes call. .
But now we walk more open, less certain of our wall. .
And in that humble seeing, a truer life begins. .
Not free of all illusions, but free to loosen their thin skins. .

DCG

When a soul touches another

When two voices meet, something more can arise.
The heart softens gently, stripped of disguise.
We speak not to win, but to understand.
A bridge takes shape, unplanned by the hand.
In the hush between words, meaning breathes anew.
It’s there love enters—only passing through.
I saw your eyes searching for a place to rest.
I gave them silence, and you felt blessed.
No shield, no mask, just a fragile tone.
Your story unfolded, and I felt my own.
The pain you carried was mine in part.
I listened not with ears, but the heart.
You spoke of loss that time couldn’t mend.
I met you there—listener, not friend.
And in that stillness, the world grew wide.
We both disappeared in the tide.
Words were few, yet something survived.
The space between us softly revived.
A sigh, a nod—the language of care.
A sacred knowing lingered there.
Sometimes the cure is not to speak.
But to stay when another feels weak.
You don’t have to fix what’s torn apart.
Just offer presence, soul to heart.
Such moments make the unseen heard.
A truth far deeper than any word.
Each voice we honor shapes our own.
Connection seeds the love we’ve grown.
So when you listen, do it whole.
Let empathy guide, let patience console.
For every answer begins with care.
Every healing breath needs air.
The art of hearing is seldom learned.
But when mastered, the heart is turned.
I write these words as a mirror call.
To remind the listener within us all.

DCG