The art of accountability 

I grew up in a tyrannical patriarchy

I also learned from the school of hard knocks

I then educated myself at the university

the contrast from my education leaves little doubt for the shocks

Life provides opportunity

no matter your background- you make the choice

How do you answer?

in your name and in your voice?

The art of accountability

What  we practice and what we do

If you stand behind your beliefs

it would be wise for them to be true

THe beauty of responsibility

Our ability to self correct

if we learn from our mistakes

We can then gain our self respect

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DCG

Granddad‘s growing pains 

Granddad’s Growing Pains


The mirror blinks back a man I almost know,
Eyes fogged with yesterday, not ready to go.
My knees creak louder than the floorboards groan,
Yet wisdom hums — a tune I’ve still not known.
They said with age comes peace, not paperwork,
But peace avoids me like a cosmic quirk.
My patience wanes when gadgets mock my hand,
Still, I nod like I quite understand.
Granddad’s growing pains, they call it mild,
But pain is pain, and I’ve been filed.
Filed under “Stubborn,” the department of men,
Who learn too slow and forget again.
I once thought age brought clarity and grace,
Now I chase my glasses all over the place.
Each year’s another test I didn’t plan,
A syllabus written by time — not man.
Never a termination point for those willing to learn,
But oh, how often we crash and burn.
We cling to what we know as if it saves,
When all it builds are comfortable graves.
They say wisdom is earned through trial and pain,
But I suspect it’s just forgetting again.
We recycle old mistakes like favorite tunes,
Play “same old story” under wandering moons.
Keep this in mind when it’s time for your turn,
You can’t just coast — you’ve got to learn.
Pride ages faster than a cigarette burn,
And humility’s the prize you’ll never earn.
The young laugh softly, their heads full of fire,
But they’ll curse like us when their knees retire.
Each stage pretends it knows the end,
But ends, like roads, just loop and bend.
I fix the same leaky pipe each year,
Claiming mastery — then spill the beer.
Call it wisdom, call it charm,
Mostly it’s chaos dressed in calm.
The mind expands, the ego stays,
Still arguing through its own clichés.
Granddad’s growing pains are seeds in clay,
They crack, they stretch — they learn the way.
The truth is humbling, strange, and kind,
We never outgrow the child in mind.
We stumble wiser, laugh through disdain,
And call it progress — through every pain.
So when I speak with trembling tone,
Know every word I say I don’t quite own.
Each day’s a remix of what I’ve learned again,
A man in motion — still growing his pain.

DCG

Vulnerability – the courage to be seen

The Courage to Be Seen
We speak of armor as if it saves us,
But what of the rust it breeds within?
The pitfalls of our social strata,
Make honesty both virtue and sin.
Layers of taking social inventory,
Peeling back what we hide so clean.
What exactly do we learn?
When learning itself feels obscene.
If we don’t stop, we’ll find our frienaissance purgatory,
Where trust is traded, and hearts convene.
It may take years to overcome our vulnerability,
But years are short in the grand human machine.
We often think of this as a weakness,
Not knowing that gentle hearts are keen.
But once you peel back the layers of your protective castle,
You meet yourself—unmasked, serene.
It can be seen by many as a strength,
To tremble and still be seen.
The courage to jump in the deep end of a pool,
Is to baptize your fear in the in-between.
Maybe jumping off the high dive,
Is how we wake from our routines.
The first time can be certainly scary,
Yet fear’s an old ghost dressed in routine.
But after you achieve this you then may certainly thrive,
For trust grows wild in places unclean.
Carl Rogers whispered softly to the trembling,
“The power lies in being seen.”
In presence, not persuasion,
We find the quiet might of the between.
When someone listens without demand,
You learn your cracks can gleam.
Client-centered heartbeats echo softly,
Where words mend tears unseen.
We expose our fears not to be fearless,
But to know they do not own the scene.
Fearless is not empty of fear,
It’s fear held softly—peace in between.
So let’s drop the swords, unlace the masks,
And speak where silence has been.
For vulnerability is not surrender,
It’s the rebellion of the humane, unseen.
Trust grows not in safety,
But in souls who choose to lean.
We are strongest when most fragile,
When truth and tremor meet midstream.
And maybe courage, after all,
Is loving in the open, raw, and clean.

DCG

The parable of the gentle bridge 

The Parable of the Gentle Bridge


In a quiet valley between two opposing hills, a bridge maker toiled. His hands, calloused and strong from years of patient work, crafted bridges for divided souls.


One day, a wandering woman stood at the edge of his most challenging bridge. She wore an armor of glass—transparent but unyielding. Her eyes, quick with suspicion, darted across the span, mistrusting the gentle arch built for her passage.
The bridge maker sensed her pain. He saw the shadows of past betrayals flicker across her face, the silent language of old wounds and silent retreats. “I know why you withdraw,” he said, “and I do not judge the fortress you carry, nor the silence in your step”.


She tested the bridge’s boards with careful toes, ready to dash backward at a creak. She spun reproaches into the wind—gentle at first, then wounding, hoping that the architect would renounce the task and justify her loneliness. But he only nodded solemnly.


“I’ve walked on eggshells too long to blame the glass,” he whispered, “but I cannot lay down bricks upon quicksand. If I were to forsake my own ground for yours, we both would sink into sorrow”.


The bridge maker forgave her stinging doubts—the anxious protests, the cold withdrawals. He forgave because his heart was anchored beyond the valley, where hope and patience dwell. He loved with an open hand, not a closed fist—never forcing, always inviting.


Each day, as the woman hesitated, circling her end of the bridge, he prayed for her healing, erecting gentle boundaries like signposts: “Here stands my care—here lines my resolve.” He did not cross where he was not invited, and he would not tear down his half for the sake of making false peace.


The irony was not lost on him: sometimes she sabotaged the crossings with words and actions, secretly hoping he’d abandon the project, thus proving the world’s unreliability. Yet he remained—not clinging, but present, a friend unafraid to see her struggle and strength alike.


He never promised to solve her fears. The true labor—lifting self-imposed stones and facing the river’s stream—belonged to her alone. Still, his gaze spoke forgiveness; his silence offered rest. If ever she dared to step beyond her glass, she would find the bridge sturdy, the welcome sincere, and the craftsman’s heart steadfast—never forsaking his post, even as he kept his own soul secure.


And thus, the bridge stood—not as a demand but as a possibility, open to her courage, and guarded by his quiet strength.

RSP

DCG

A walking contradiction

Are you really trying to hurt me?

Was that your intent?

Are you aware of how that sounds?

 The messages that you sent 

I know you self protect and not self reflect

And I can certainly empathize

But by now you’re old enough to learn

 How to navigate your fear and moralize 

“Defensive exclusion“

Is just running away

Raising your armor

The impulse to flee and not stay

“Defensive distancing“

Self preservation, your first trigger reaction

You freeze up, suppress and avoid

But she will never heal

When you always feel annoyed

You keep me close enough to feel good

But far enough to feel safe

I know your dis regulated

this language, I try to interface 

A funny thing happened to me

On my way to a dream

My subconscious no longer my filter

I see things for what they are

And not for what they seem

You might ask me

Just how I may know

The drops in my water are methylene blue

No foggy brain in my sleep-As my dreams will show

I see all the breadcrumbs you left

A passive – aggressive, communication style

But you hide behind your cowardice

Pretending behind the smile

I see you for who you are

I’ve forgiven you for who you’ve become

I’m strong enough to walk away

What’s done is done

You can only pray so much

For a trapped and bitter soul

The work is left only for you

To climb out of your shame based hole

I painfully know this problem

And there are boundaries that I must explain

I pray every day for a healing

I rely on my faith and I will not complain

May peace find you

There really is no other way

You must face your fear head on

Before you find yourself in decay

RSP

DCG

The parable of the mirror prison

The Parable of the Mirror Prison


Once, in a city fashioned of glass and shadow, there lived a traveler whose name nobody called, for he answered to every sorrow. He wandered a labyrinth built not by architects but by the ache of his own convictions—each corridor made of longing, failure, and half-remembered forgiveness. The wind carried whispers: “You are the sum of all you’ve survived. Accept what little kindness knocks.”


One day, the traveler found himself before a great Mirror. Its surface shimmered with the stories of other lives: parents who could not stay, friends who did not notice, love given as if rationed from a stingy well. He stared into it, searching for the line between reflection and reality, and asked, “Why do I remain with those who wound me, who measure out affection in drops, never letting it become a flood?”
A voice answered from within the glass, echoing Charlie’s question from long ago: “We accept the love we think we deserve. We let care settle on us like dust, collecting but never cleansing, because we have mistaken familiarity for destiny.”


Days passed. In the city of glass, the traveler’s feet were bruised by sharp truths: patience worn to threads, safety bartered for silence, emotional needs deferred as if unworthy of daylight. Whenever his heart reached for something gentle, memory would wrestle him down, reminding him of every time he let the world teach him what his value was—and how seldom that lesson aligned with kindness.


Irony grinned from every reflection. For the man who most yearned for love was also the one who built the thickest walls to keep it out, haunted by the conviction—taught early, repeated often—that wounds are more reliable than hope. Each time a friend or lover offered warmth, the traveler hid behind old fears, welcoming only what felt familiar, even when it was insufficient or cruel.


Yet, as twilight bled into the labyrinth, he remembered the stories of Jacob and the prodigal son, each haunted by unworthiness who stumbled, at last, into the arms of undeserved grace. In this city, too, redemption shimmered beyond habit’s reach.


And so the traveler faced the Mirror one last time and broke it—not to escape its reflection, but to scatter its prison. With bloody fingers, he learned to reach—clumsy and imperfect, but real—for the love that did not originate in self-condemnation, but in the wild, unearned generosity of being alive.
From every shard sprang possibility: communication restored, safety reclaimed, courage reborn from agony. He found, finally, that greatness was neither in what was deserved nor denied, but in the radical act of refusing to settle for anything less than true care. And as he crossed the threshold into dawn, the city’s glass became invisible—no longer a prison, but a birthplace for love neither measured nor rationed, but freely chosen once and for all.

DCG

Yet here I stand 

see the walls you raise,

built from pain you cannot show,


Yet here I stand, a patient guide

through shadows that you know.


Your silence is a language

pain taught your heart to speak,


But my faith gives me courage, gentle strength that will not leak.
Your fears are roots as old as wounds left by your father’s hand,
I sense the trembling in your soul that few could ever understand.
But I don’t flinch from what’s unseen, or from the days you run and hide,


Instead I’ll always reach for you—your journey is my greatest pride.
For healing moves in circles wide, not lines that curve and end,
And every time you stumble, dear, I’ll lift you once again.


If shame and sorrow bind you still, in chains you never chose,
My love will be a steady light each time your old fear grows.


You think you are the sum of hurt, of parents who could not stay,
But I see the woman fighting through, her heart lost in the fray


Each setback is not final, nor proof of doomed defeat,


We kneel together in the faith that makes our union sweet.


I know the path is jagged, and patience wears so thin,


Yet with every scar uncovered, I pray new trust begins.


You’re not required to fix yourself, nor please me with your grace,
It’s only asked you let me in, to share this hallowed space.


Because your worth’s not measured by how fast you heal anew,


Or by the perfect grace you show—your value is just you.
I’ll be here through the winters, and when hope feels far away,
As long as it takes, I’ll stay and stay—by your gentle side, I’ll stay

RSP

DCG

Scar tissue 

Scar Tissue


I wait beneath the weight of hollow years,


the silence burns a prayer into my chest.


Your shadow quivers where the light appears,


I ache in faith, though faith is put to test.


I trace the echo of your turning face,


each time you flee, I find no ground to stand.


The past still hums—a ghost I can’t erase,


a trembling heart still reaching out a hand.


You hide behind your walls of hardened glass,


pretending you were never made to need.


While I am caught in memories that pass,


their thorns still teaching me how hearts can bleed.


The nights collapse with whispers of your name,


and hope becomes both comfort and disease.


I’ve learned that healing doesn’t mean the same


as finding peace—it asks a harder peace.


I see the child in you that never spoke,


the small defense that shields you from my care.


The boy in me still breathes beneath the smoke,


unlearning how to vanish into air.


If grace is measured by the ones who stay,


then mine was forged in storms I could not leave.


I pray the wind will bend your ribs someday,


and teach you how the broken still believe.


Because this bond was never born of choice,


but tethered in the hunger of the scar.


I hear redemption trembling in your voice,


but silence always tells me where we are.


You fear that love will drown you where you stand,


while I fear losing what was never mine.


Each moment drips like blood between my hands,


as faith and grief braid tight around the spine.


I’ve watched your eyes turn distant, cold with doubt,


but underneath I feel the buried prayer.


There is no healing if we cast it out,


so I remain, though absence fills the air.


I can’t repair the child who hides in you,


but I can hold the ache without demand.


If miracles are what the broken do,


I’ll wait for God to place them in your hand.


This scar—our mirror—shines where pain had fed,


reminding me that loss can still renew.


And even if the path is lined with dread,


I’ll walk it still, until it leads to you.

RSP

DCG

However, it may lead I will always find my faith

I know you’re feeling angry

I know your feeling resigned

The coping strategy you use

A pain free solution you will never find

My heart breaks every time I see

The struggle you will not address

It’s from a trauma in childhood

Not any evil demon that you possess

You are held captive

In a prison of your own mind

You are both the prisoner and the jailer

That will punish you every single time

I’ve done the research, I’ve learned my boundaries

But for you, I will not give up, I will not fail

With knowledge there is responsibility

This commitment to heal will not stale

When others have given up

When you found yourself betrayed

Your family members were scattered

And now you drift alone afraid

I understand your shame and fear

A secure attachment of somebody like me

I understand you’re avoidant tendencies

This is something I can clearly see 

In my initial anxious attachment

I have grown into one that is secure

This trauma bond, I now understand

With self reflection and counseling, there is a cure

I walk a precarious edge of a razor

Knowing my empathy couples with self sacrifice

I tread upon this boundary

Knowing full well, what is the emotional cost and price

You may ask me why the emotional fortitude

In my experience of abandonment and shame, I find the grace

However, it may lead

I will always find my faith

RSP

DCG

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I’m trying to seek approval

I am trying to seek approval

Because of my father‘s love I never had

He neglected my feelings

I grew up, emotionally fractured, broken, and sad

This is very common

People form a trauma bond

The underlying attraction they feel

Is a masquerade and is still wrong

The familiarity in attachment theory

Has profound implications

Deeply embedded into our  intimacy responses 

Within our primary relations

the more I have studied this behavior

The deepest silent anguish of misery

From those who do not even recognize their condition

will continue to commiserate on their injury

The abhorrent parenting practices

Leave their forsaken children in emotional chains

The atrocious mothers and fathers

Will never see their own children’s pain

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DCG

See John Bowlby‘s work on attachment theory

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