Learning

Breathe deeply

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Release of anxiety

Release of any trauma

Forgiveness must be made

To let go of any drama

Breathe deeply

Pain has an unrelenting hold

Have faith to let go

Face the truth or so I am told 

Maybe it’s denial

Not facing up to your pain

Using a bad coping strategy

Going around and around again

For the avoidant

They will rarely ever learn

If you keep yourself busy enough to make a turn

You will always yearn

Sometimes the child within us

Has never learned to grow

Be very cautious

To those who are unwilling or afraid to show

RSP

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DCG

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You won’t know until the silence hit you

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The quickest path of victimhood

Is through the expression of passive-aggressive, dismissive-avoidant denial

The gauntlet is thrown in defeat

The indignation and sentence are exposed pre-trial

At attachment theory, dismissive-avoidant and anxiously attached

Both have triggers

Both have a 22 catch

You won’t know until the silence hits you

You have to experience it before you can see

 we have to prevent what triggers us

To face what is truly reality 

If you pull back far enough, the problem within you is evident but you are afraid to see

Your emotional paralysis is not mature

Your perpetual stagnation

Is all you endure

A self fulfilling prophecy

Meets a self sabotaging force

You’re not able to navigate

If you can’t chart a course

Take a snapshot

What do we know?

Severe emotional neglect

Stunted feelings, you never allow to grow

How do you deal if you don’t know how to heal?

What is wild?

You are part woman

No, you are part child

Survivors of emotional trauma

And childhood neglect

May Bond together

Attached to the trauma they connect

The perks of being a wallflower

When you see it, it hits a nerve

“Sometimes we accept the love

We think we deserve”

RSP

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DCG

Even in our own behest 

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The failure of recognition

Looking at life with a fisheye lens

The distortion may hide the opportunity

Because how we see things may always depend

maybe you’re tired

Maybe you’re down

Maybe you’re hurting

And it’s hard to get around

When we are weary

Feeling small

Where will we find the courage?

To again stand tall

There are times we will stumble

There are times we will certainly fall

the only thing that really matters

if we continue to get up after all

So where do we find the motivation?

in order to move forward in whose name shall we call?

The infant cannot walk

Until they learn how to crawl

The lack of purposeful activity

Idle hands and an idle mind

Leads to moral decay

Of the sinful kind

This proverb discussed by St. Thomas, Aquinas and Pope Gregory 

The seventh deadly sin of sloth 

A warning given

By both men of the cloth

The core idea I speak of

pragmatic agency must never rest

the struggle will continue

Even in our own behest

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DCG

How can I be a part of the solution?

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The wisdom of forgiveness

So too requires the wisdom of walking the razors edge

Knowing when and when not

To use a hedge

The entanglements that befalls us

May take us by surprise

If ruled by the heart and not the mind

What then will our passions devise?

Soren Kierkegaard said “life can be understood looking backwards, but it must be lived forwards“

In other words to live one must take risk

Learn by mistake

Beware the idolater who prays to the golden obelisk

When we own our Folly

It helps us see in our relationships

With misunderstanding

And solve our difficulty

How can I be a part of the solution?

A question a couple must always ask

To build upon a foundation

Given what both lives may cast

There is no certainty

With vows of good intent

The practicality to work through shared issues

A reason why we become penitent

Make no mistake I believe in commitment

A covenant and social contract is necessary

The responsibility is mutual

both parties must work hard to achieve and agree

RSP

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DCG

Without training, our Folly is a guarantee

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the hedonist lives an empty life

The Jainist lives in aesthetic purism with the intent to delay

And this is why Siddhartha

Discovered  the middle way

Without training our Folly is a guarantee

The case above is just one example how will we choose to navigate?

We test over many generations

We observe, we teach, and we calculate

I am not a cultural relativist

In today’s world, we can educate 

And find a choice

And whose name do we advocate?

In what authority do we voice?

Wisdom does not simply fall into our lap

It must be observed and learned

And some of which

Must be earned

the teachings of ancient India

the prophecies from the Middle East

If you look to the modern world

Where can you find your peace?

The Buddha spoke to suffering

The Christ spoke to sin

The attack upon western civilization

A spiritual war, the patriots must win

Our Founding fathers knew

The tyranny of man

The limitation of government

The Bill of Rights we must demand 

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DCG

Expectation without investigation 

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Pure conviction untested

is where the true believers fail

Without practice

The intellectual motion will not prevail

Expectation without investigation

Like a road made of sand

Washed away by the elements

A road not well planned

There is more than just belief

It must be tested in practice with common sense and adversity

A formation of character to learn, earn, and return

a blueprint on how to be

Living the best possible life requires agency

A Moral compass only works with self correction

The simple resolution

Is self inspection

integrity is not an accident

It’s foundation that defies corruption

It will last longer

Than a fools presumption

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DCG





A blessing if kept, we deserve

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Beyond the love of oneself

The love of a spouse

And then of a child

This union creates a house

As time passes

Our focus is misdirected

If too much self

Than the We is no longer connected

Therefore, because of our proclivity

The hierarchy shall be

The observance of the divine

Before the observance of family

The prescription

When lost in misdirection

Reconnect to the hierarchy

Depose yourself of any misconception

The fourth Decalogue

Keep the sabbath holy as we shall observe

This orientation will ground us

A blessing if kept, we deserve

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DCG

I would have had to pretend

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you may not know my name

I provided a service to our community

I was efficient in my job

I was kind when there was an opportunity

I served the public at large

I tendered them with care

I listened to their grievances

Even when nothing was really there

when we place our attention

Only on our needs

We miss out on shared experiences

Living a life only the lonely leads

self absorption is not a badge of honor

If we limit our discussions to ourselves via thought

No audience to convene and explore

Only a one-way ticket is bought 

I would have never seen the world differently

Without the influence of loved ones and friends

I would have never become the person I am today

Without the help from others

I would have had to pretend

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DCG

The dream Smith and the doubter 

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Parable: The Dreamsmith and the Doubter


In the heart of a bustling city, there lived a Dreamsmith—a quiet soul capable of crafting beautiful visions of futures yet unseen. Every night, he shaped his dreams with painstaking detail, believing that what he visualized could one day become real.


One evening, as he sat sketching a radiant cityscape beneath the moon, a weary man approached—The Doubter, worn down by years of disappointment.
Doubter: “Why do you waste your heart on fantasies? The world isn’t made from visions, but from stone and sweat—and broken hopes.”
Dreamsmith: “The world begins in the mind, friend. Imagine a road: the clearer you see it, the closer you are to walking it.”
Doubter: “But hope can hurt as much as it can heal. What good is dreaming if reality cares nothing for your plans?”
Dreamsmith: “Dreams paint the outlines; actions fill them in. It’s not wrong to dream. Every stone laid was once imagined. Every triumph began as a fragile idea.”
Doubter: “So we are to be fools, then—building castles in the air while ruin nips at our heels?”
Dreamsmith: “Not fools—builders. To dream only is to drift, but to see no tomorrow is to wither. Reality is neither enemy nor friend; it’s the shape we carve with courage and persistence.”
The Doubter sat in silence, watching as the Dreamsmith returned to his sketches, each line bold, each color bright with possibility.
Doubter: “And what if the world crushes our visions?”
Dreamsmith: “Then we stand, dust off the debris, and begin again. Reality isn’t just what happens; it’s also what we dare to make.”
A wind swept through the city, carrying with it the faint scent of hope. The Doubter lingered, feeling for the first time in years the quiet pull of possibility.
This exchange highlights the eternal tension within the human spirit: our yearning to imagine, our skepticism born from disappointment, and the resilience that keeps us shaping reality despite it all. To dream is to risk disappointment, but to abandon vision is to give up the very power that moves us forward.

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DCG

Reality check 

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It’s not wrong to dream

A future that you can visualize

The more detail you envision

The closer you can realize

It will not be a simple task

It will take consistent work

To manifest a better life

Is not an easy perk

Few will achieve success

Many will simply fail

If we lose our focus and discipline

Then the dream becomes stale

Like anything – if you don’t put in the effort

You may not like the result

If your focus is too narrow and vague

Then it can be only your fault

Along the way

You will face trials and tribulations

You must meet deception and treachery from those you thought you could trust – head on

Without making insinuations

The course of your actions

Are always louder than words

Anything else

Would just be absurd

There will be times

You will need to seek guidance

Go to a well trusted source

Always ask are my values in accordance?

We may box ourselves in with our logic

We wake up years later and realize 

The image in the mirror is not what we thought

This reality check we despise

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DCG