The Intention of Behavior

Liberty Sighs

How can we avoid becoming tainted when the world seemingly goes mad?  Most of the issues are not really with the everyday average person.  The leaders who are in power and legislate policy allow the manifestations we feel as part of their archaic practices.  Curiously this is where much of the happenstance of our predicament is born.  The division of opportunity because of protected classes, the division of people in class warfare, ad infinitum can be traced to misplaced allegiance.  The ultimate illusion of these divisions can be played against us for political gain.  The attack on our foundations also target the primary introduction of etiquette that emerges and originates from the family.

Manners and social conduct come from this inception from the family!  We are often like rats in a maze, that feed off of the resulting stimuli we are given as a reward; or more precisely like hamsters on a wheel!  The Operant conditioning model does have some Merit.   We have become more conditioned to a certain way of life that perpetuates the feelings we experience in our everyday activities.  Sadly much of the resulting discord is also done intentionally, and not by chance under the control of our politicians, community organizations and other civil servants.  On the globalist scale think about the travesty of Trans-Pacific-Partnership.  On the smaller scale think of how we treat each other on the street which is just as devastating in these micro-social constructs.  This too is felt all over the globe but on a much more personal individual level.

We are sharing the world with many who cannot but help inflict their chaos upon those around them.  Why must we endure such behavior?  Establishing some code of conduct essentially comes from the family.  With the breakdown of the single family in western cultures, we see trends that have disturbing consequences.  Forging our personalities also includes having some kind of friction from others around us showing alternative points of view, having conflict, and resolving conflict that are important aspects of the social beings we become.

We do not have the proper teachings or manner’s such as was taught in China around the time that Confucius flourished.  His teachings were specifically used during that dynasty to train the general populations as commandeered by the ruling dynastic emperor of the time.  This resulted in much improvement over the conduct of the people, as they adopted much of the teachings espoused by Confucius.  But we are not in China during the time of Confucius, so how do we deal with the public that has lost their way.  For me the question is often how do we keep ourselves free from the worry and unnecessary derisive narratives in our lives?  We can often plunder into the negative void from others creating content that will subject us to unhealthy vibes and we indirectly find ourselves feeding off of it.  This is what we must be careful of, not allowing such content to enter our consciousness.  It is the wrong kind of energy that has damaging effects on us.  Think about reasons why the viewers of reality television continue to watch.

Not unlike the child who demands that we play by their wishes.  We first must not allow it to negatively affect us, then deal with the “childish behavior”, or circumstances appropriately channel that behavior towards a healthier conduit and extinguish those behaviors that are offensive for the rest of the group.  One can easily find many examples of abrasive behavior in public at almost any place where people congregate; especially with people from different backgrounds.

I was in the 1980’s when the catch word “chill” was first introduced into popular culture.  This became a contagious phrase that exploded across all ethnic, and age groups during my adolescence.  Furthermore it has transcended many decades and has become part of our lexicon.  The idea for which it stands I think has profound effects among us.  Not only does it suggest a positive vibe, but it’s introduction and memorable resolution is brilliant on many levels that everyone can understand!  Unlike many previous trendy and whimsical phrases from the “youth culture” in the 1960’s such as “groovy”, “out of sight” or “right on” which seldom make any mention in our pop culture come-back phrases; it is unlikely that the word “chill” will leave our vocabulary any time soon.

 

 

What I find interesting is that there are many examples of when we as a people despite the circumstances, some people never fail to surprise me in the good deeds that they do.  People like Chris Ulmer make a huge difference in the world.

A fully formed person can dramatically help heal us when we pay attention to those around us.  By the courageous efforts of our deeds at times when we could otherwise act differently; we can genuinely affect others.  The intention of our behavior can change the lives of many around us.  Not only by the “pay it forward” aspects, or by “random acts of kindness” we express to others as we meet the world; but the inspiration of our actions are the genesis of our ability to harmonize an already dysfunction in the world and can be pivotal in moments for us individually.

 

 

The whole Santa Claus mythology has some flawed views.  When the question of naughty and nice children comes up at this time of year, I think that every child should receive love and some kind of gift.  It is when we do not see the children as confused and troubled that the bigger mistake is made.  There are no bad children, just children that are hurt, and confused.  If we treat the cause of the ailment, then we can make huge strides in our humanity.

 

Oh, I’m bein’ followed by a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
Leapin’ and hoppin’ on a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
And if I ever lose my hands, lose my plough, lose my land,
Oh if I ever lose my hands, Oh if… I won’t have to work no more.
And if I ever lose my eyes, if my colours all run dry,
Yes if I ever lose my eyes, Oh if… I won’t have to cry no more.
Yes I’m bein’ followed by a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
Leapin’ and hoppin’ on a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
And if I ever lose my legs, I won’t moan, and I won’t beg,
Yes if I ever lose my legs, Oh if… I won’t have to walk no more.
And if I ever lose my mouth, all my teeth, north and south,
Yes if I ever lose my mouth, Oh if… I won’t have to talk…
Did it take long to find me? I asked the faithful light.
Did it take long to find me? And are you gonna stay the night?
I’m bein’ followed by a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
Leapin’ and hoppin’ on a moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow
Moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow, moonshadow

Cat Stevens


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Theory of Planned Behavior

Etiquette

What is Etiquette?

 

 

 

Stand or Fall

Weeping Angel
The time is now
The time to live is now
The time to love is now
The time to forgive is now

I see myself in a fog when I am down.  I see myself in a clarity that usurps the haze when I am happy.  I think about myself, my life, and when I think about the things I stand for, and how that has reflected in the life I have chosen, I am appeased.  Suffice to say that I had many unpleasant experiences that I brought upon myself.  I take part in the ownership of that struggle, but isn’t this what makes our travels cultivate the lessons we’ve learned?  When we are able to distinguish between the good the bad and the ugly after we have tread upon soiled ground is a part of the journey we are destined to make.  The observance of what one stands for is something discovered.  How one manages this discernment is also the by-product of “that for which they stand.”  In all the heartache I have faced, in all the disappointment, and the tribulations of this life, I can still hold my head high and celebrate that for which I stand.  The Magnum Opus of my life’s work lies not in the work I have achieved professionally, but rather in the pursuit of an ethic I have remained true to through-out my personal life.  I am not special, nor am I privileged, and most certainly I am flawed.  Bruised and worn down by others I stand, judged with the shallow temerity of others I stand.  But the tenacity that runs deep within me stems from a very existentialistic starting point.

At times I am unable to make sense out of a world gone mad.  A world that includes the modus operandi of those that continue to take from others less fortunate, a conduct that compels and deludes one’s self-absorbed ego into wanting more.  Ironically engaging in this behavior will never quench their thirst given this criterion.  Giving something valued to another has many possible distinctions.  If one freely gives another something of value to them, and the recipient also values this gift, then the acknowledgement of reciprocity can exist.  If again this scenario takes place, but the recipient is unappreciative of the gift, and they take the gift for granted, then the chance for reciprocity is not likely.  The expectations of so many people who have come to think they are entitled to a certain outcome, lifestyle, and are usually “me” driven, have a very short sighted view of the world.  The world does not revolve around our expectations.  We are not the center of the universe, but many continue to think this is so.

Have you allowed others to take advantage of you?  Were you in shock, or appalled by the attempts and successes of this behavior?  To see the good in people can have detrimental side effects when we deal with others if we do not chose to look closer and ignore the signs of a flawed ego.  Getting beyond the ignorance of others, getting beyond the callous and capricious arrogance is something we all must fare.  Surrounded by the public I am reminded every day that for a people who posses such wonderful qualities, we are still subject to the transgressions of an untempered society.

If you look at historical cases of civil unrest, rioting, anarchism, and lawless behavior, you will find many examples of those placing themselves and their needs above that of another in times of duress.  This is an extreme case of those who fight to prevail their circumstances albeit much has to do with self-protection in many cases.  When our civil duties are disbanded, when we hold no allegiance to the society we are in, then the rule of “self” will come to be.  “Every man for themselves”, or I’ll get mine seems to come to mind.  The Twilight Zone episode “The Shelter” seems to bring this point into light.

The Shelter

ORIGINALLY BROADCAST AS EPISODE 068
STARRING CAST: Larry Gates, Peggy Stewart, Sandy Kenyon, Mary Gregory, Joseph Bernard, Moira Turner, Jo Helton, Jack Albertson
WRITER: Rod Serling
DIRECTOR: Lamont Johnson
SUMMARY: Doc Stockton, the town G.P. physician, celebrates his fiftieth birthday one evening with family and friends, when suddenly a news report comes in over the radio that some UFO’s are approaching Earth rapidly and that everyone with a bomb shelter should get inside it immediately. But Stockton is the only one in the neighborhood with a bomb shelter, much to the dismay of his neighbors.

Unfortunately, the sad fact is that situations such as the one presented here have happened all over the planet.  But these particular people prove to be so incredibly self-centralized – refusing to use what few resources they do have to make sure their own security and that of their children – that it’s hard to feel sympathy for them.  The final moment, where they march up and out of the wrecked Stockton house, surely never again to speak to the Stockton’s – or each other – is a head-shaker.

The fact that we mistreat others is subject to the value we assign to our role in the harmony with natural order.  If one adopts a philosophy such as Locke’s Social Contract in that Locke believed that natural rights were inalienable, and that the rule of God therefore superseded government authority; and Jean-Jacques Rousseau believed that democracy (self-rule) was the best way of ensuring the general welfare while maintaining personal freedom under the rule of law, then that addresses the governing body of the society.  The Lockean concept of the social contract was invoked in the United States Declaration of Independence, but where does the personal ethic of our harmony within a society take hold?  The tyranny of a government is well-known and we have countless cases through-out history, but what of the personal conduct within our society?  Laws were created to have controls on our society.  Moral behavior is profoundly more complicated since it deals with behavior that may be legal, but would still be deemed as wrongful and detestable and have extensive possibilities and outcomes depending on the circumstances.

The tolerance of such actions may just be the issue.  If we direct our talents to pay-it-forward, if we direct our acuity to develop our children, if we direct our own behavior on a path that aligns with wisdom, then maybe we have a chance in manifesting a better destiny.